In my last blog I talked about the first two of the 5 Secrets of Successful people.
(If you haven’t read it yet, my suggestion is to read that first and then come back to this one.)
Ready for the next three?
#3 is…
3. Lead by example.
Sometimes I coach people who in the beginning believe that there are leaders and there are followers, and that followers don’t necessarily have leadership capacities. I like to think about this in a different way.
What if you believed that everyone can be a leader?
An aspect I see in leadership is how you influence the world around you. How well you lead directly affects your ability to motivate and inspire others, as well as yourself.
In the S-Factor Leadership Process I teach my clients the difference between catabolic and anabolic energy and how that affects our leadership capacities.
The contrasting information below shows the difference between a catabolic leader who manages and the anabolic leader who leads.
Catabolic Anabolic
-manages -leads
-delegates fully -project shares
-gives information -shares detailed information
-self assesses -utilizes feedback
-works in crisis mode -plans & develops accountability systems
-disconnects emotionally -utilizes emotional awareness (is sensitive to others emotions)
-useless brain analysis -uses whole brain thinking
-deals with problems -sees only opportunities (solution focused)
-utilizes personnel -sees the true human resource
Which side are you on? Which side would you rather be on?
4. Live in the now.
Do you ever notice how successful people have the ability to harness as much energy as possible to live in the moment? They seem to have it all together, can do more than the average person, and you wonder how they do.
We’re trained to be doing something at all times. We’ve become a very doing culture. I love the quote “Don’t just do something, stand there.” Chew on that one for a while.
What keeps us from being in the present moment? Fear. You may have learned the FEAR acronym as False Evidence Appearing Real. There is another acronym for FEAR – Future Events Altering Reality.
We sometimes try to have total control in the moment and when we do, it’s because we are worried about our future. That worry is coming from our perceptions and beliefs about our past. Because these two other time frames are distracting us, it ultimately takes us out of the moment.
I have an easy to use technique to address fear, concern or worry. Anytime you notice them rearing up, just breathe and ask yourself these two questions:
-Is what I’m about to do in alignment with what I want to achieve going forward?
-Is what I’m about to do in alignment with the person I want to become going forward?
If the answer is yes to either or both, then thank your fear for being there and just go for it! I said these are simple but I get that they might not be easy.
5. Changing anything changes everything.
“My gift is the ability to make changes the easiest way for me.” Each and every one of us has this ability to create change and adapt to change. Use your gift to make the change so you’re empowered by it.
I once learned that it’s not change we fear, it’s the worry or concern that we are going to be okay or successful in the midst of change. That isn’t something anyone can predict. What if you just assumed you will be?
Here is the most insightful question you can ask yourself every morning to show up as your most powerful self… “How do I choose to experience the world today?”
You never know when you’re going to impact someone else’s life that makes a difference so share your gift!
Here is an exercise you can do right now to start shifting your success:
As of today I choose to ________________________________________________________________.
When I do that, I make a difference in the world by sharing _______________________.
Many others are inspired by me because I demonstrate ___________________________.
When I live this way everyday, I always feel ________________________________________.
I sometimes don’t know when people read my blogs or watch my videos. I love it when I hear people tell me they do, or they thank me for writing about something.
When I share my thoughts and passion for what I do, I just assume that if it impacts even just one person’s life, it was worth it.
Now are you ready to talk? I still am. Take the S-Factor Leadership Process and spend time with me for a private debrief to learn more about catabolic and anabolic energy and how you show up as a leader.