The following audiocasts are from Alanna’s library of her Leadership Inside and Out Coaching Circle calls. Each sample sessions focuses on a specific topic. The information provided by Alanna includes tools, exercises and how-to’s that you can use today, tomorrow, and whenever you need them! You’ll also be hearing some sample coaching from the participants who called in. Be sure to click on the green titles to expand each audiocast.
VOICES FROM WITHIN
Overwhelm - It's a state of mind.
Procrastination – Why do today what you can do tomorrow?
Perfectionism – Declaring ourselves perfectionists.
The WHAT vs. the HOW – Worrying about how it will all work out.
Stress – Causes, types, and what to do about it.
Having an Integrated Life – Work/Life Balance.
- Urgency and outside pressure
- The belief we won’t get it all done
- Reality doesn’t really have much to do with it
- Fear is underneath our overwhelm
- Common causes and contributors of overwhelm
- Setting the stage for success
- Brain dump exercise to alleviate overwhelm
- How procrastination is a form of self-sabotage
- The reasons and excuses we make, and are we waiting for permission?
- Our not good enough voice says “you aren’t ready!”
- When our fears contribute to avoiding taking action
- How our unproductive relationship to money gets in the way of making more
- Accountability can put a stop to procrastination
- It doesn’t mean you are lazy, unmotivated or inefficient
- The 4 Myths we create for not getting started
- Fantastic or great is just as good, if not better
- Desiring success and avoiding failure
- Wanting others to be perfect too
- What perfectionism is
- The irrational beliefs that contribute to it
- The negative consequences of perfectionism
- Rational behaviors needed and steps to overcome it
- Why we get hung up on the “how” of doing things
- What if there wasn’t a “how?”
- What our brain has to do with it
- Why we worry
- The effects and complications of worrying
- Coaching questions to ask your brain so you stop worrying
- So you really think you can handle it?
- How it affects your life, your body, and your business
- Two kinds of stress – eustress and distress
- What stress REALLY is
- Suggestions for managing stress
- 3 Stages of Coping Behaviors
- Integrated Life vs. Life Balance
- Racketeering and defeating ourselves
- Time management is just a small piece
- Setting boundaries and creating healthy parameters
- Sticking to a schedule
- Delegation –freeing up time and mental power
- Be an example to others
ME AND YOU AND EVERYONE WE KNOW
Sticks and Stones – Am I listening or am I making it personal?
Unspoken Agreements – How are they affecting your relationships?
What’s so Wrong about our Need to Be Right?
Resentment – Finding your way to forgiveness and mental freedom.
Effective Communication – Preparation and self-assessment.
Accountability – How we can be self-accountable.
- What percentage of communication are words vs. non-verbal body language?
- Processing information – Perceptions and Interpretations
- Formulating responses vs. actively listening
- 3 Different levels of listening
- Powerful Communication Tool – Acknowledging and Validating
- What if nothing was personal?
- The THINK Process
- The unspoken “gentleman’s agreement”
- Winning and losing in relationships?
- Expectations and unexpressed needs
- Contracts we create with others – in our minds
- Our need to be right
- What if nothing was personal?
- Coaching Questions to gain clarity
- Why it’s scary to relinquish our need to be right
- It makes us feel safe
- Living in the gray area
- Being right vs. happy
- Grieving and letting go of control
- What causes to be controlling and what it’s costing us
- How to expand your capacity to let go of control
- What I’ve learned from letting go of control
- Anger, resentment and guilt
- You have a choice – it was in the past, how it affects now and your future
- What is really causing our unhappiness underneath the resentment
- Observing it differently and getting to the root cause of our anger
- The amygdala – our caveman brain and primal reactions
- Steps to letting go of resentment
- An exercise to assist you in letting go of resentment
- Being inquisitive and asking questions
- Are you a good listener?
- Intentional Conversations – The 4 things you can do to influence an outcome
- After a meeting or conversation – how well did you do?
- Coaching tool – Questions to ask yourself as a self-assessment
- Happiness = having a profound level of self-awareness
- Self-accountability is the foundation of success and productivity
- You are accountable for your success and failures
- Management expectations of others being accountable
- Enabling and empowering others
- It takes discipline, courage, commitment and brains
- To have accountability, we need to have confrontation
THE SKY’S THE LIMIT
Status Quo – What’s the payoff?
Limitations – Accepting yours and the limitations of others.
Instant Gratification – Wanting it NOW! Versus practicing patience.
Money – Become friends, fall in love and you’ll make more!
Goals – The 8 Reasons why we don’t achieve them.
SMART Goals – What working “SMARTer” means.
Creating a vision or Visualizing. Either way, it works.
- Change and the pain of staying the same
- Playing it safe – the pay off of the status quo
- The boiling point – what pushes us over the tipping point to change
- The 5 bad habits to avoid when feeling stuck
- Habits and how they affect change
- Our conviction about what we can’t do
- Don’t buy into your perceived limitations
- Using the FLAGS system to see what is limiting you and where it’s coming from
- The “I’m getting ready” syndrome
- Why smart people don’t take action
- The reasons WHY we limit ourselves
- Negotiating with ourselves
- It’s okay to want more
- Being patient doesn’t mean you’re lazy
- Writing down your excuses
- Replacing old habits with new ones
- Coaching tool – “notice and practice”
- Needing immediate results vs. being okay with process and progress
- The two subjects of money: plenty of it and not nearly enough
- Facts about money
- Unproductive perceptions and beliefs about money
- Get comfortable with it
- Get real about it
- How we relate to money is how we relate to others
- Money isn’t the solution because money isn’t the problem
- Giving and receiving
- Tips on how to change the flow of money in your life
- From “have to’s” to inspiration
- The importance of our goals
- Making them easier to achieve
- 8 Reasons We Don’t Achieve Them!
- Questions and tips on how to ensure you will achieve them
- 5 Reasons goal setting matters
- The SMART acronym and what it really means
- You may have learned it before but are you using it?
- The magic formula – being specific and then letting go!?
- We are simultaneously living in two worlds and realities
- The conscious mind and the unconscious mind
- Using visualization to achieve your goals
- Be vivid, clear, and skip the details of how
- How visualization works
DO, OR DO NOT. THERE IS NO TRY
Acceptance – Accepting where you are and being in the now.
Plan B or Plan A?
Blind Spots – The metaphorical blinders.
Problem or Solution – Which are you focused on??
Values – They affect our ideas, attitudes, and actions.
The difference between making decisions and making committed decisions.
- Being grateful and at peace
- What are you committed to?
- FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real
- The past, the present, and the future – being present
- Knowing you are exactly where you are supposed to be
- Plan B stands for Plan Bewilderment and Plan Backburner
- Plan A – Plan Achievement
- Distracting yourself with Plan B
- 6 Ways to look at it realistically
- Put your Plan B on the backburner and get back to your Plan A
- We experience them scientifically and metaphorically
- How we benefit from gaining access to our blind spots
- A blind spot can make you a better person
- The life long journey of uncovering blind spots
- We don’t see what’s right in front of us – we really don’t
- Tunnel vision
- Emotional blind spots
- Identifying it as a challenge vs. a problem
- Why do we take it personally when challenges do occur?
- Emotional attachment and self-blaming
- Grieving and being problem focused
- It’s a mechanism of our brain
- What’s right instead of what’s wrong
- Empowering vs. enabling
- Coaching questions to get you more solution focused!
- They are personal and cultural
- Values are what drives us
- They show up in beliefs, mission statements and philosophies
- Organizational and Institution values
- Values, accomplishments and psychological energies
- Exercise – Get in touch with your values
- Want progress? Make decisions.
- How values affect our decisions.
- Will power and strengthening our decision making muscle
- Energy needed and conscious attention to make decisions
- A lack of resources of resourcefulness?
- The 3 decisions we make in every moment