I’m in the process of preparing for a really big move. Where to? You’ll have to wait to find out! I’ll be ready to announce it soon.
In the meantime, I’ve been purging and going through my belongings on a much deeper level to decipher what I want to take with me onto my next chapter and what I’m ready to let go of.
I’m going through clothes, my bookcase, files, and figuring out what furniture to sell or keep. In that process I came across some old notes from my coaching certification program at iPEC from 6 years ago.
What I found was a good reminder. The 5 Secrets of Successful People. After reviewing them, I thought it would be great to share them with you. They are simple to apply to your profession and your life as a whole.
I don’t like to share anything as if it’s a secret and information like this shouldn’t be. What I’m going to share with you also might feel like you’ve heard it before.
Yet, I hope you realize after reading these that you too can achieve a higher level of success by simply applying these principles – of course if you aren’t already.
In this blog I’m going to address #1 and #2. You’ll have to check back to learn about #3-#5.
1. Clear your personal clutter.
It’s not just physical clutter. In this case I’m referring to mental clutter.
There are 4 types of energy blocks that contribute to our mental clutter.
A. Gremlin – This is the voice in your head that tells you that you’re not smart enough, not experienced enough or not good enough in some way.
B. Assumptions – This is about allowing history to predict the future. Just because it happened in the past does not mean it will always happen again in the future. This applies to people or things. (Even if you’re thinking, “yeah but ________ always does _________.” What if you expected something different from them?)
C. Interpretations – It’s the way we view the world. Usually from the past. Which again, doesn’t usually mean that it will be that way again.
D. Limiting beliefs – This sounds something like “I am not good at ______.” What you don’t realize is that these types of beliefs limit you from trying, learning, or doing something you haven’t before. It can sound like a truth or what you declare as your identity.
Now you’re probably wondering, “well then how do I get rid of these?” Unfortunately you won’t ever get rid of them. They’ll happen, and sometimes happen over and over.
Although when they do come up, here is a process to address, confront and break through them.
It’s an easy 4-step process:
1. Awareness – You need to have the awareness that the block is there. Denial doesn’t get anyone anywhere
2. Identification – identify which block it is.
3. Intervene – Once you know which one it is, you’ll know how to address and stop it in its tracks!
4. Action – Take one small action to move yourself forward. Notice I said small? It doesn’t have to be a big action for it to be effective. In fact, sometimes small actions can be more effective in the long run.
2. Practice the distinction between what is “true” or what is “truth.”
True – What seems to be true to us is that which we believe. Our beliefs mostly come from one of the 4 energy blocks listed above so there usually isn’t a basis for reality for them to be true. Remember, it’s all past based. So what basis do you have it to be true for the future? (Again, I don’t want to hear the argument that well it happened before so?!)
Truth – Something that cannot be changed, it’s permanent. It’s true whether you believe it or not. The truth sometimes can be incomprehensible – like gravity. We can’t see it yet we know it to be truth.
I once learned that “suffering is derived from pleasure and pain, that is, the obsession with one and the avoidance of the other.” People want more of what they don’t have and less of what they don’t want.
There is a big buzz out there of people trying to achieve work/life balance. If you believe that everything has to be working to be happy, we suffer.
What if you looked at life as if nothing is as good or as bad as it is at the moment? With every high there is a low, with every low there is a high. What if you had the understanding and knowing that a high won’t last, and neither will a low? Nothing is permanent. Life is ever evolving and so are we.
Intrigued? Scratching your head? By learning the other 3 success principles, these may make more sense.
Want to learn about the other 3 principles to implement to achieve more success? Check back for the next blog post!
I’ll be talking about the difference between a Leader who manages versus a leader who truly leads. I’ll also share with you an insightful question you an ask yourself everyday, first thing in the morning, to live your most present and powerful life.
Ready to talk? I am too. My consultations are complimentary. A great way I like to start a new client is with my JumpStart Strategy Session.