Certified Professional & Executive Life-Coach

There isn’t only one path in life. We have all these forks in the road & people always worry well what if I choose the wrong fork? There are no wrong forks, all the forks are the right fork. No matter what fork you choose, they will all lead you to the right place anyway & provides for a more interesting life. What would we do without forks? Life would be boring.

Have you ever looked at where you’ve been and everything you’ve gone through with the ability to see how it all helped you get to where you are today? Included in all of those experiences are yes, the bad ones too. What would it be like for you to embrace and even thank the universe for providing those experiences because it’s so clear as to how they have benefited you?

Life is messy. Life is confusing. Life is full of ups and downs. What’s up to us is how we perceive all of that. Are we really able to create a perfect life where it’s perfect every day, every hour of the day? No! If we had all the answers all the time there would be no need to research, meet new people, or experience new things. If life was even keel all the time, most likely you would think some type of thought as to how you could shake things up a bit due to boredom.

So why do we worry so much about the choices that we’ve made, or are about to make? Because we are always trying to get somewhere. What if I told that desire to get somewhere will never go away? Also, why do we worry so much about whether it’s the right decision or the wrong decision? I’m sure our friends, family, or co-workers have something to do with it. What if I told you that no decision is ever wrong. It’s just the decision you are making now.

What if you looked at your life as if it was a game of chutes and ladders? I bet if you did you would realize how when you played that game as a kid, that you didn’t have to worry about making a decision because the the number you rolled on the dice did it for you. The game also seemed to have it’s own pace topped with the anxiousness of waiting for the other person to put their marker where it landed.

You probably also talked to those black and white squares with dots on them to manifest an exact number so you could land on that big ladder to climb up towards the top of the board. The game got really exciting when that would happen, didn’t it? In some way that level of excitement was maintained even when you would roll a number that had you land on a slide because you knew that the game wasn’t over and you had another turn.

What if making a decision was that easy? Well it can be, we’re the ones that make it hard. So go ahead and pick up those imaginary dice, shake them up in your hands and give it a roll…the game isn’t over yet.

The new year is approaching us day by day and it’s a powerful time of reflection about the year that is coming to a close. It’s this time of year that people typically think about all the things they’ve been meaning to do, or those things they would like to do. You may have experienced taking the first few steps but then find yourself distracted or no longer motivated to continue through to completion.

When we think of something we want to do or would like to do, we get excited about the prospect of it. So when that excitement wears off and we lose our motivation and the recognition of what we haven’t done sinks in, what are the feelings that come up when this happens? One example might be disappointment…in yourself.

This is possibly because whatever it was that we set our minds on to do was negotiable, where we negotiate with ourselves about how much time it’s going to take and whether we have the time. Really it comes down to are we willing to make the time? It could be about available resources, whether internal or external. Or sometimes it’s about having required knowledge and then knowing where to get that information.

Sometimes all we have to do is just make it a non-negotiable commitment. Those who procrastinate about going to the gym, or writing that book, or finish that home project haven’t yet made those tasks non-negotiable in their conscious thinking mind. Most likely you are coming up with some good reasons not to do it where you can be coming up with all kinds of great reasons TO do it.

Stop arguing with yourself and start getting in alignment with who you are and what you really want for yourself. Do what you can to break that old habit of not completing things and create a new habit of not only checking those old things off your list, but also creating a new intentional list of things you’ll be excited to do.

Look at your to do list with eyes that are intelligently and diligently focused. This new way of being is an opportunity to make yourself proud and be an example to others as someone who does what they say you are going to do. A friend once said in a presentation she did, “do you want to be someone who does what she says, or someone who regrets not having even tried?”

The commitments you fulfill today are building blocks to your future ahead. By following through with your commitments, you are making them real by bringing them to fruition instead of something you are just talking about. Once you’ve done them, what is guaranteed is that feeling of satisfaction where you get to relive that excitement you had when you first thought of the idea in the first place.

Happy New Year!!!

We all usually have someone in our life that has that affect on us. I had a conversation with a client this morning about that. She painted this particular scenario where she brought up all these reasons as to why this person bothered her. How he did things that were inappropriate based on a general consensus of how “it’s just not how things are done.”

So some things I posed to her was, well what if it were someone else? Would it have bothered her as much? She hesitantly admitted, probably not. So what was it about him that she was making mean about herself? That was the big question.

Another topic we addressed was that based on her “reasons for being bothered”, she was assuming that everyone knows the same rules and how one is supposed to behave or act in any given situation. That’s also to assume that everyone was raised the same way, from the same parents, with the same values…as if there is a handbook somewhere and everyone gets certified in it.

Problem is, that’s just not the case. So now knowing this, how can we not get bothered by others? Once we delved deeper into the subject, we started to get into what he represents. When we get bothered, annoyed or frustrated buy someone it’s usually for one of two reasons, and it doesn’t have anything to do with them.

One is that this person is holding up a metaphorical mirror exposing us to something we don’t like about ourselves. The other is that this person is reminding us that there is something that we aren’t expressing that we either need to or want to but are holding back. Either of these things can be frustrating, aren’t they?

Now I’m not suggesting that there is anything wrong with you, there isn’t, and I’m also saying that there isn’t anything wrong with the other person either. Actually there isn’t anything wrong at all. What’s merely happening is that your perception about this person is getting in the way of you being free to be who you are and to be in the moment.

What would it like for you to let go of all judgment of others so much so, that no matter what anyone does or says, you aren’t bothered? Or annoyed? Or frustrated? Instead you just be and let everyone be, and you let that moment pass.

Remember that everyone is on their own path at their own pace. Also remember that the only reason anyone does or says anything is because in some way, they think it’s going to make themselves feel better. Including you. So does being bothered, annoyed or frustrated make you feel better? Probably not. If you simply changed your perception, it would change the way you feel.